6 things not to say to somebody with anxiety Read more: http://metro.co.uk/2015/09/24/6-things-not-to-say-to-somebody-with-anxiety-5404995/#ixzz424KUPPcD

Some people have this misconception of what anxiety is and therefore tend to treat it like any other type of stress.

6 things not to say to someone with anxiety

Although anxiety may contain moments of stress, it is so much more than that.

Anxiety is the unknown feeling of worry, of guilt. A nervousness that never seems to leave your body.

Anxiety attacks can occur at any time, and should be taken seriously.

When somebody’s having a complete melt down over the thought of entering into a social environment, be cautious and attentive.

Don’t belittle or ignore. Here’s a few things you should avoid saying to somebody with anxiety:

“Calm down!”

This is probably one of the worst things you could possibly say to somebody with anxiety. How can you expect somebody to calm down when they themselves can’t fully comprehend the feelings they are experiencing?

“I get like that too”

I’m sure you do get like that. To an extent. And I bet you have good reason for it, too.

But with anxiety, at times there can be no obvious cause. So unless you yourself experience the lifelong illness, do you too get completely worked up over nothing? Do you really “get like that too”?

“It’s all in your head” 

Chances are if you’re suffering with anxiety, there’s been times when you’ve questioned your own mind. What’s wrong with me? What’s going on in my mind? Why am I like this?

Do you really think it’s helpful, telling somebody the fears they’ve been questioning and dealing with aren’t real at all?

A phrase like “it’s all in your head” is patronising, and can actually worsen the extent of the anxiety, and can mean the sufferer is even less likely to speak out about it.

“There’s people worse off in the world” 

Since when did it become acceptable to compare one illness to another? To compare an illness to anything, for that matter?

Just because anxiety may not be as visible as other illnesses, or as devastating as some of the atrocities going on in the world it doesn’t mean it is not there. That’s where the term ‘invisible illness’ comes in.

It’s totally unacceptable to belittle one person’s suffering, particularly if it is something they haven’t dealt with personally.

“Just get on with it” 

When somebody is facing anxiety, forcefulness is not the best attitude to have when trying to motivate someone.

Showing a little empathy will work wonders in comparison. If they really thought they could just “get on with it” at the drop of the hat, they would. Nobody asks for anxiety, and a lot of the time it’s not something you can just move on from.

“Is it my fault?” 

No! No, no, no, NO. It’s not your fault. It’s not their fault either. It’s nobody’s fault. Although this comment is in no way rude or patronising, it can be a little hurtful to the person dealing with anxiety. As well as dealing with their own foreign emotions, guilt over the fact somebody close to them blames themselves is not going to benefit either person.